IKHWALITHI UTHANDO
Muva nje ekuxhumaneni kwami nozakwethu, ngifinyelele ekugcwalisekeni okubuhlungu: ikhwalithi iwukhiye wokuthuthukiswa kwebhizinisi.Ikhwalithi ephezulu nesikhathi esifanele singaheha ama-oda ekhasimende amaningi.Lesi isiphetho sokuqala engifinyelele kuso.
Iphuzu lesibili engifuna ukwabelana ngalo nawo wonke umuntu indaba emayelana nenye incazelo yekhwalithi.Uma ngibheka emuva ku-2012, ngangizizwa ngididekile ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi akekho owayenganginika impendulo.Ngisho nokufunda nokuhlola akukwazanga ukuxazulula ukungabaza kwami kwangaphakathi.Kwaze kwaba yilapho ngichitha izinsuku ezingu-30 e-India ngo-Okthoba 2012 ngaphandle kokuxhumana nanoma ubani omunye lapho ngaqaphela khona: konke kumiselwe futhi akukho okungashintshwa.Ngenxa yokuthi ngangikholelwa ekudalweni, ngayeka ukufunda nokuhlola futhi angibange ngisafuna ukuphenya ukuthi kungani.Kodwa umngane wami akazange avumelane nami, futhi wangikhokhela ukuthi ngiye ekilasini futhi ngifunde "Amandla Embewu".Ngemva kweminyaka, ngathola ukuthi lokhu okuqukethwe bekuyingxenye ye-"The Diamond Sutra".
Ngaleso sikhathi, lolu lwazi ngalubiza nge-causality, okusho ukuthi lokho okuhlwanyelayo yilokho okuvunayo.Kodwa ngisho nokwazi leli qiniso, zazisekhona izikhathi zempumelelo, injabulo, ukukhungatheka, nobuhlungu ekuphileni.Lapho ngibhekene nezingqinamba nobunzima, ngokuzenzakalelayo ngangifuna ukusola abanye noma ngigweme umthwalo ngenxa yokuthi kwakungakhululeki futhi kubuhlungu, futhi ngangingafuni ukuvuma ukuthi lokhu kwakubangelwa yimina.
Isikhathi eside, ngalondoloza lo mkhuba wokuxosha izinkinga lapho ngihlangabezana nazo.Kwaze kwaba sekupheleni kuka-2016 lapho ngikhathele ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo lapho ngaqala khona ukucabanga: uma lobu bunzima empilweni bubangelwa yimina, ziphi izinkinga zami?Kusukela lapho kuqhubeke, ngaqala ukubheka izinkinga zami, ngicabanga ukuthi ngingazixazulula kanjani, futhi ngizame ukuthola izizathu nezindlela zokucabanga kusuka ohlelweni lwenkinga ukuze ngiphendule.Kwangithatha amasonto amane okokuqala, kodwa kancane kancane kwaba yimizuzu embalwa.
Incazelo yekhwalithi ayilona izinga lemikhiqizo kuphela, kodwa futhi ihlanganisa isiko lebhizinisi, izinga lokuphatha, izinzuzo zezomnotho, nezinye izici.Ngesikhathi esifanayo, imfanelo ihilela izimo zengqondo zomuntu siqu, izindinganiso nezindlela zokucabanga.Kuphela ngokuhlala sithuthukisa izinga lamabhizinisi nabantu ngabanye lapho singadlulela endleleni eya empumelelweni.
Uma sifunda incwadi ebizwa ngokuthi "Karma Management" namuhla, ethi zonke izimo zethu zamanje zibangelwa i-karma yethu, singase singathuki kakhulu ekuqaleni.Singase sibe nomuzwa wokuthi sizuze ulwazi oluthile noma sinokuqonda okusha, futhi kunjalo.Nokho, njengoba siqhubeka sicabanga ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu ekuphileni, siyaqaphela ukuthi yonke into empeleni ibangelwa imicabango yethu, amazwi nezenzo zethu.Lolo hlobo lokushaqeka alunakuqhathaniswa.
Sivame ukucabanga ukuthi singabantu abalungile, kodwa ngolunye usuku lapho sibona ukuthi sinephutha, umthelela ubalulekile.Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi kuze kube manje, osekuyiminyaka eyisithupha noma eyisikhombisa, njalo lapho ngibona ngijula ekuhlulekeni kwami nasezinkingeni engingafuni ukukuvuma, ngiyazi ukuthi zazibangelwa yimina.Ngiyaqiniseka kakhulu ngalo mthetho we-causality.Eqinisweni, zonke izimo zethu zamanje zibangelwa izinkolelo zethu noma ukuziphatha kwethu.Imbewu esayitshala esikhathini esidlule igcine isiqhakazile, futhi esikutholayo namuhla kuwumphumela okufanele sizithole thina ngokwethu.Kusukela ngoJanuwari 2023, angisangabazi ngalokhu.Ngizwa umuzwa wokuqonda ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukungangabazi.
Ngaphambili, ngangingumuntu onesizungu ongathandi ukuhlanganyela noma ngisho nokuthengiselana ubuso nobuso.Kodwa ngemva kokuba sengicacelwe ngomthetho we-causality, ngaba nesiqiniseko sokuthi akekho umuntu kulomhlaba ongangilimaza ngaphandle kokuba ngizilimaze.Kubukeka sengathi sengingumuntu othanda ukusondelana nabantu, ngizimisele ngokuhlangana nabantu, futhi ngiyofuna ukuthengiselana ubuso nobuso.Nganginomkhuba wokungayi esibhedlela noma ngigula ngoba ngesaba ukuxhumana nodokotela.Manje sengiyaqonda ukuthi lena indlela yami yokuzivikela enganakile ukuze ngigweme ukulimala lapho ngixhumana nabantu.
Ingane yami yagula kulo nyaka, ngamyisa esibhedlela.Kuphinde kwaba nezinkinga ezihlobene nesikole sengane yami kanye namasevisi okuthenga enkampani.Ngaba nemizwa nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukahlukene kuyo yonke le nqubo.Sivame ukuba nokuhlangenwe nakho okufana nalokhu: lapho sibona umuntu ongakwazi ukuqeda umsebenzi ngesikhathi noma ongakwazi ukuwenza kahle, isifuba sethu siba buhlungu futhi sithukuthele.Kungenxa yokuthi senze izithembiso eziningi mayelana nekhwalithi nesikhathi sokulethwa, kodwa asikwazi ukuzigcina.Ngesikhathi esifanayo, saphathisa abanye ukwethenjwa, kodwa basizwisa ubuhlungu.
Kwakuyini umuzwa wami omkhulu?Kungalesosikhathi ngathatha umkhaya wami ngiyobona udokotela futhi ngahlangana nodokotela ongaqeqeshiwe owakhuluma kahle kodwa wangakwazi nhlobo ukuxazulula inkinga.Noma lapho ingane yami iya esikoleni, sasihlangana nothisha abangenandaba, okwakuthukuthelisa wonke umkhaya.Nokho, lapho sikhetha ukubambisana nabanye, ukwethenjwa namandla nakho kunikezwa kubo.Lapho ngithenga izinsiza, ngiphinde ngahlangana nabathengisi noma izinkampani ezikhuluma kakhulu kuphela kodwa ezingakwazi ukuletha.
Ngenxa yokuthi ngikholelwa ngokuqinile emthethweni we-causality, ekuqaleni ngayamukela imiphumela enjalo.Ngabona ukuthi kumelwe ukuba kubangelwa amazwi nezenzo zami siqu, ngakho kwadingeka ngamukele imiphumela enjalo.Kodwa umndeni wami wawuthukuthele futhi uthukuthele, unomuzwa wokuthi awuphathwa ngendlela efanele kulo mphakathi futhi ubuhlungu kakhulu.Ngakho-ke, kudingeka ngizindle ngokujulile ngokuthi yiziphi izenzakalo eziholele emiphumeleni yanamuhla.
Kule nqubo, ngithole ukuthi wonke umuntu angase acabange ngokwenza imali kuphela lapho eqala ibhizinisi noma ephishekela imali, ngaphandle kokuba uchwepheshe kuqala ngaphambi kokunikeza izinsizakalo noma ukwenza izithembiso kwabanye.Nami ngike nginje.Uma singenalwazi, singalimaza abanye emphakathini, futhi singase silinyazwe ngabanye.Leli yiqiniso okufanele silamukele ngoba ziningi izinto esizenzile ezihlukumeza amakhasimende ethu.
Nokho, esikhathini esizayo, singakwazi ukwenza izinguquko ukuze singazibangeli ezinye izinkinga futhi sizilimaze thina nabathandekayo bethu kuyilapho siphishekela imali nempumelelo.Lona umbono engifuna ukuwabelana nawo wonke umuntu mayelana nekhwalithi.
Yebo, imali ibalulekile emsebenzini wethu ngoba ngeke sikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwayo.Nokho, imali, nakuba ibalulekile, ayiyona into ebaluleke kakhulu.Uma sitshala izinkinga eziningi zekhwalithi ohlelweni lokwenza imali, ekugcineni, thina nabathandekayo bethu sizobhekana nemiphumela ekuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukahlukene kokuphila, okungekho muntu ofuna ukukubona.
Ikhwalithi ibaluleke kakhulu kithi.Okokuqala, kungasilethela ama-oda amaningi, kodwa okubaluleke nakakhulu, siphinde sakha umuzwa ongcono wenjabulo kithi nabathandekayo bethu esikhathini esizayo.Lapho sithenga imikhiqizo noma amasevisi anikezwa abanye, singathola namasevisi ekhwalithi ephezulu.Lesi yisizathu esiyinhloko esenza sigcizelele ikhwalithi.Ukuphishekela ikhwalithi kuwuthando lwethu ngokwethu nemindeni yethu.Yindlela okufanele sonke siyilwele sindawonye.
I-altruism ekugcineni iwubugovu bokugcina.Siphishekela ikhwalithi hhayi kuphela ukuthanda amakhasimende ethu noma ukubona lawo ma-oda, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuzithanda thina nesibathandayo.
